You are Guilty , Just like I am

Tell me...How do you define a good parent? Placing your child in a school or day care you can barely afford? Buying them the most updated gadgets? A Pizza a week? Trips to Disney? Branded clothes?Perfectly nutritious meals? Etc Etc Etc




And while you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to give the best of the best to your child, your child is on your phone,laptop or tablet learning from me. 

Do these "Etc's" really justify neglecting your children in Cyberspace?
Out of your protective sphere and into my Realm?
I love the irony....here I am right in front of you abusing your child and yet you don't see me. 
How is that possible you ask?
It quite simple you see....while you are typing away furiously on your keyboard trying to get that Bonus to pay for that expensive pageant for your child, I am the one taking your child on a magical journey through cyberspace right through your own phone or computer. 

You think i only exist in a physical form? Well think again..
In a virtual world I have many faces. I am that virus that hacks your cameras, I am that website that promotes porn. I am that video with sexual overtures, I am those suggestive lyrics of a catchy song, I am that pop up that has no restrictions. I am that online best friend who never judges, never tells them to do their chores or homework. 

Yes your children are happy playing on your latest I phones and Androids, happily surfing away into oblivion. Crossing the streets of Cyberspace without any Zebra Crossings.You are happy too, your child sitting quietly , giving you a chance to compose that sooo important email.
Guess what..I am happy too! 

Is this not neglect on your part as a parent, the self declared guardians of children.
Does this neglect not cause emotional abuse? Does this not open the doors to my kind of physical abuse?

What is child abuse? According to WHO (world health organization)  Child Abuse is also any act or failure to act by a parent or caregiver that results in actual or potential harm to a child.

What does this have to do with a tech savvy, gadget addicted child? How does gadget addiction cause potential harm? I guess i need to spell it out for you, so here goes nothing:

1. Hinders Brain Development: Studies have shown that too much gadgets may negatively affect a child’s brain on its functioning, and may even cause attention deficit, cognitive delays, impaired learning, increased impulsivity, and decreased ability to self-regulation.
   
2. Violence: Most popular kids cartoons display severe violence. Children raised on viewing  hours of such aggravated behavior start displaying it eventually. Tantrums are the most common form of aggressiveness among toddlers growing into disobedience.
   
3. Hinders communication and Social skills:When children spend most of their time on technology and less time with people, it stops interaction and disrupts the normal communication skill development .Its no wonder that toddlers and parents have such a hard time communicating when they choose to be surrounded by inanimate objects.
4. Most importantly it exposes your child to me.
   

Shall I go on about vision impairment, sleep deprivation, addiction..etc etc etc.

All you want to do is keep your kid quiet (as is always the case).

So you give them permission to explore the unknown with absolutely no regard to their safety. While you are winning the trust of your clients I am winning the trust of your child.
Yes, if I am guilty of abuse then so are you my dear parents.I get hanged or a life sentence if i am caught, What punishment do you deserve?

My kind of abuse is not the only kind...in fact one can argue that your kind of abuse gives my kind of abuse an opportunity to expand my playing field.

 Once again I tell you why I am telling you this ? 
Because come morning you will still think its okay to hand your minor child your phone while you try to give them a better life.


Because you yourself are so desensitized and addicted to gadgets that even while you are reading this your child is probably watching the inappropriate gyrating movements of the latest pop song video and while that child is trying to mimic those inappropriate moves you will only be thinking of the next dance competition you can enter your child into.

 As for me I will simply be watching and waiting for you to desensitize your own child to the sexual nature of the world. I will read to them instead of handing them a kindle. I will sing them a lullaby instead of handing them headphones. I will take them to the park instead of handing them a playstation. I will talk to them instead of chatting on social media.

Then I will strike!

Go ahead prove me wrong and make your kid a priority instead of adding zeros to your paycheck, cause if you do not then I certainly will make them my priority!

I have had my say. What you gotta say for yourselves? Look in the mirror and tell me ...Who's the Abuser now?

I Shall Fear No Evil

7 Yr old Boy Murdered at Gurgaon Ryan International School. Are you going to live in fear or are you going to fight back?

As a child i used to think Exorcist was the scariest thing out there, then i became a mom and knew what real fear was. Not a day has gone by when i was not scared to death for my babies. Those first few days when i used to hold a mirror to my sleeping baby's nose to see it fog up with her sweet breath, those first few steps when my heart used to stop every time she stumbled and those millions of sleepless nights when she was sick, taught me what real fear was.It taught me that as a parent you can do everything to protect your child, but you have to stand by while nature take its course.It also taught me that as a parent my biggest strength to fight any fear was HOPE & LOVE. 

BUT LOSING A CHILD TO CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE IS NOT NATURAL AND I WILL NOT SIMPLY STAND BY.

We hope to never ever let something like this happen to our children. We take every precaution to prevent it ...but what if it does happen? What if our worst fears come true? What if we lose our baby to this evil? Are we equipped with enough knowledge of our justice system to bring about the justice to our child memory?

Those first moments after that horrible call  which devastates a parents life is when you lose your mind. You can't believe. Shock, Confusion, Guilt, Rage are just a few of the thousand emotions that tear us up.It becomes difficult to breathe let alone remember that your child still needs you to fight for him.

But for the legal system those first few hours are critical to gather evidence, record statements and catch the culprit. This is when we as parents have to be the strongest. Its imperative for us to know our rights as a parent and the protection offered by our Legal System.

Do not  fear, nor wait for disaster to strike.Be prepared if not for yourself then for someone you might be the only helpline.

Read the law.

Call helpline numbers to know to see what help they offer.

Call your local police Dept to understand your first response actions to this crime.

Pray it never happens to any child but do not Live in fear ...Live for Retribution 

Swift & Brutal. Let the law take it from there. Remember you are not alone .Every parents support is there for you. Just ask.

So I heard you wanted to talk to me? Understand what makes me tick? You wanted to know me?Sure, Let's Talk.

You people live in a country where you genuinely want to make it a better place, so you try so hard to give people the benefit of doubt.You strive not to talk bad about people. You believe that people can repent for their bad deeds. You forgive and try to forget. YOU LET GO! That is exactly what i count on...your Denial, your Confusion, your Fear...your Silence.

I started out no different than your children. I grew up in a middle class family with stressed out parents who had lots of love for me but never enough time. Very lonely and five years of age ,my father introduced me to FriendUncle.

I still remember the first time I met him. Kind eyes, soft smile and lots of fun. He talked to me, not at me. I liked him. We talked every time he came over and he even took me to the park and bought me my favorite ice cream. He loved me ,he said. Then one day that love turned confusing, frightening & painful...but he said it was okay..he was teaching me how to be a grown up. He said to trust him.  I kept my silence. Too ashamed to let my parents know. It continued to where after a few years it seemed normal. The gifts and attention never stopped, neither did the love nor the pain.

Then one day it did. It stopped. The gifts, the attention, the pain, the love. He said he loved me but I had grown into a teenager and did not need him anymore.He said to trust him. I was scared all over again and even more confused. Used to a routine, my mind & body felt things I needed to share, but who would understand? I could never share them with a grown up around me, so i shared them with my younger cousin, 8 yrs old. It was easy. he trusted me. I was a teenager so using my size and status was not too hard to get what i wanted. i truly hated myself. As time passed it became easier to love the unloved.

(Feeling Sorry For Me Yet ?See how easy it is? Earning your sympathy is the first step)

I am not a bad person, I love children. Especially the ones who are shy, naive, lonely, alone, small and have not been taught that silly talk about good touch/ bad touch. ..What nonsense! You don't understand that a child can never get enough love and attention ..no matter how much you try. I am simply filling your shoes for a while. You don't believe me? Lets me tell you how it goes.

Little Rikki was such a sweet boy .Big house, good parents, good school, good everything. Always smiling and happy, he brought so much joy wherever he went. Such an angelic face. For me it was love at first sight. 

(What? have you never told your friends that you simply adore her /his child? Nothing wrong with that. Its normal).

I was his new driver uncle. Oh, how much we talked everyday to school and back. He loved sugarcane juice. So we started stopping everyday to drink a glass after school.One day as Little Rikki fell down at football practice. My heart stopped. I immediately rushed him to the doctors office and got him fixed up just as his parents came running .They thanked me for taking such good care of him. Soon I was driving him to school, practice, after school studies and even some school activities. His parents were only too happy to even let me babysit for Little Rikki.

(gaining the trust of  child, building a child's self esteem, appealing to a child's need to be heard ,valued and appreciated. Lowering a child's inhibitions by playing on their natural curiosity by gradual seduction. Its so easily irresistible!

Gaining a Parents trust in this country is even easier ..many working parents are overly desperate for readily available babysitters and those offering extra free attention to their child. Let's not forget that I am a Master Manipulator who has yet to be caught!)

Sadly me and Little Rikki could never enjoy the fufilment of our relationship because of that pesky neighbor ..Mrs Sharma and I had to quit my job and move away. However there were plenty more at the school I joined in the new town. 

 I never forgot Little Rikki and maybe someday i might be friends with his children. He trusts me. Children cannot stand up to me unless they are proactively educated and prepared beforehand to do so. 

Which is why I love this country where goodness is preached from every religious and social loudspeaker. Where maintaining a social status in society is more important than the safety of children. Where parents neither want to know about me or what I do or even that I could be living in their homes. Where people pretend not to see me , even as I stand in front of them. You think if you close your eyes and look the other way , I will simply vanish. Hilarious. Some of you even have the audacity to tell your children to take it as life's lesson and be quiet.

You say I make you sick ...well i have news for you. You make me sick. 

You have rights, You have Laws, but you are too afraid to even know or understand them. How will you ever understand me? 

The day you break your culture of silent humiliation is when you can break me.

Till then I will continue to love your children with my own way of good parenting skills. 

Why am i telling you all this about me? Because you will read, like and deny that I could ever happen to your child. Your absolute belief in knowing what is best for your kid and refusing to be educated or educate your child and your unwillingness to ask for help from the legal sysytem of your own country is your downfall.

Now its my turn to ask a question. Name one thing you have learnt about my profile in the comments below. Let's me also see how many of you Perfect Parents even bother to.